Polly Adler's Column "Chaos de luxe": Chill Your Life, You Victim

Polly Adler has changed how she deals with life’s frustrations. Once quick to react, the writer and performer now embraces a carefree attitude—even when facing minor slights. Her shift in mindset began years ago, sparked by a promise from her daughter and a growing weariness with unnecessary drama.

In 2008, Adler’s teenage daughter gave her a Christmas voucher. It promised three months without arguments and a peaceful holiday season. The gesture stuck with her, marking a turning point in how she handled conflict. Around the same time, her daughter’s casual remark—'Chill out, you drama queen'—became a running joke, but also a reminder to let go of small irritations.

Over the years, Adler adopted a more relaxed approach to life’s annoyances. She no longer engages with offensive comments or petty arguments on social media. Instead, she follows Mel Robbins’ *‘Let Them!’* philosophy, choosing indifference over confrontation. Issues like lightweight racism or generational jabs—what she calls *‘boomer-bashing’*—no longer bother her. Her column, *Chaos de luxe*, even encourages readers to embrace this same carefree mindset. Her new outlook extends to daily routines. Adler often visits Vienna’s central cemetery, where she buys a sausage roll from a stand with the slogan *‘Because who the hell cares anymore.’* The phrase has become something of a personal mantra. Professionally, she continues to perform, with a New Year’s Eve show scheduled for December 31, 2025, at the Rabenhof theatre. For those interested in her work, Adler’s website is [pollyadler.at](http://pollyadler.at), and she can be reached via email at [email protected].

Adler’s journey from frustration to indifference reflects a deliberate choice. She no longer wastes energy on things she can’t control, whether online spats or trivial insults. Instead, she focuses on what brings her peace—family, performances, and the occasional sausage roll at the cemetery.