Cultivating Equity for Inner Tranquility: A Guide

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In a world where cooperation and cohesion are vital in larger systems, from families to organisations, fairness stands out as a key factor. Research shows that fairness promotes harmony and unity, fostering a sense of unity and mutual respect.

Individuals who perceive their workplaces and relationships as fair tend to reap numerous benefits. Lower stress levels, fewer symptoms of depression, and greater overall life satisfaction are some of the advantages experienced by those who operate in a fair environment.

Conflict resolution is another area where fairness shines. Adopting a solution-focused approach, using "I" statements, and focusing on behaviours can help resolve disagreements effectively. In such situations, fairness means aiming for understanding, being honest about feelings, resisting the urge to blame, and focusing on solutions.

Cultivating fairness involves intentional efforts to connect and communicate with care. Practices like empathy and active listening are instrumental in this process. Empathy, demonstrated through listening with intent, reflecting on what is heard, avoiding interrupting, and noticing body language and tone, helps reduce misunderstandings and emotional tension.

Fairness extends beyond interpersonal relationships. It also plays a crucial role in leadership. Fair leadership significantly boosts employee engagement and creativity, as people give their best when they feel they're being treated fairly.

However, experiencing perceived unfairness can have detrimental effects. The brain responds to such situations as though facing a threat, leading to resentment, anxiety, and conflict. Setting clear expectations and boundaries in relationships and workplaces helps avoid misunderstandings and creates a shared sense of fairness.

Repeated experiences of unfairness can lead to emotional withdrawal or defensive behaviour, influencing relationships, disrupting sleep, and affecting physical health. On the other hand, fairness helps both parties in relationships feel valued, heard, and respected, strengthening emotional bonds and reducing the likelihood of recurring conflicts.

Cultivating inner fairness is equally important. Treating oneself with compassion and respect is a step towards inner peace. Asking oneself questions like "Am I holding myself to impossible standards?", "Do I show myself the same grace I offer others?", and "Am I allowed to rest, say no, or make mistakes?" can help cultivate inner fairness.

The Wellbeing Science Labs offer resources on fairness, using the research of the Institute for Life Management Science to produce courses, certifications, podcasts, videos, and other tools. By embracing fairness, we can build stronger relationships, boost our wellbeing, and create a more harmonious world.